Living as a Victim steals our Future
Living in a state of constant self-victimization, constantly rehearsing our pain due to someone or something in our lives will inevitably steal our hope and our future if we remain there. God has so much more for us. He has promised us that even the worst events of our lives will not even compare to the riches in store for us. “No eye has seen no eye has heard…” Though this is definitely nearly impossible to do without great willpower, but better healing may be manifested when seeking thorough healing in partnership with the Holy Spirit and the Word of God. We must seek the Lord with all our hearts and minds to be set free from this endless cycle of word-cursing. We oftentimes don’t know that we are even in this cycle. Thus, living in a posture of repentance is so necessary as a follower of Jesus.
We all have times in our lives where we inevitably end up playing the role of the villain in someone’s lives whether unknowingly or knowingly, whether or not it was our fault or someone’s else’s.
Jackie Dorman says it well with, “Hurt people Hurt people,” and as Henry Cloud would say through His book, there are sometimes necessary endings to certain relationships in our lives. Accepting these things means that we must understand no one is always the victim. We all must take responsibility for our own fragility, error and brokenness to situations that turn out different from our intention and beyond our control. the Bible says in Proverbs, the heart is above all else deceitful, and it is God who searches the hearts of man (Jeremiah 17:9-10). We need the Spirit of God to search out and reveal to us what is inside. We cannot even trust that we know fully what is inside of our own hearts. King David knew this and asked the Lord to search Him and we frequently see in the psalms a prayer of God to cleanse the heart and to reveal areas of wickedness. This is how we live in a posture of repentance always kneeling before the cross of Christ, and yet always open to receiving His grace, mercy and forgiveness.
This is why humility towards one another, but first and foremost Loving God and one another is of utmost important. We cannot underestimate the importance of unity in the Body of Christ. For if we cannot maintain or at least strive for living in a constant state of repentance and we cannot receive the grace we so desperately need if we are not willing to give out that same measure of grace to one another. No matter the harm, no matter the gravity of pain inflicted we must always pursue forgiveness and God’s love. For this is the very reason why Christ died for us, that all fall short of the glory of God.
To God be the glory. If we live for earthly rewards, we will miss out the rewards of Heaven that are not temporary but everlasting. For whatever we have on earth we cannot take with us in our Heavenly home.